"Self-Image"

I was reading Dr. Wayne W. Dyer's The Power of Intention. I would like to share with you something he wrote in his daily calendar.
"Don't make others' feelings about you more important than your opinion of yourself. If you've allowed any negative thoughts and opinions directed your way to become the basis of your self-portrait, you're asking the universal mind to do the same." His belief is that we create what is going to happen in our life with our thoughts and feelings based upon our projections of ourselves and what is happening in our lives. If we are always negative we will only continue to draw negative things into our lives. If we focus on what we are deserving than things will come our way. There is a lot of truth to what he has to say. The thing to remember is that it takes time. You have to work at things in your life and work on yourself and create these possibilities for it to happen. You can pray and ask God for things to be better but if you are not living your life with that passion and purpose, it may not happen. As long as you are making an honest effort to change in your life the doors will start opening up for you and you will see the rewards.

So remember that you have the power to naturally create the life you want with your intentions.

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"Life Isn't Fair"

How many times have you found yourself or someone saying "Life Just Isn't Fair". Why is this happening to me? I am such a good person. I don't deserve to be treated this way. Why can't people be nicer? Why do I always have to pick up the slack for other people? Why can't everyone just get along? How come he got the promotion and I didn't? How come he can have all those nice things and I can't? Why do I always have to struggle to get by? The list could go on and on and on............ The reality is Is that life sometimes isn't fair. We need to do the best that we can and learn from every situation that is presenting itself to us and move on. Some things we do not have control over. If we choose to make a decision that serves us but may have another impact or reaction that we do not look at than we have no control over the outcome and how someone may respond to it. There are some people who are takers and do not care how they get what they want. Is that fair? Maybe not but it is reality. All you can do is to be true to who you are, ask for what you need, and do the best you can. It still may not unfold as you would like it to because you can not control how other people are going to respond or react to a situation no matter how good and kind you are. Do your best to put whatever it is that you think is unfair into perspective and do what you can to change it if you can and if not learn from it and let it go. We all need to have a vision and move toward that vision but sometimes life has others plans that we could not foresee. So be grateful for the things that you have in your life. There is always someone else whose life is filled with more struggles, hardships and unfairness than you could possibly imagine.

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"CONFRONTATION"

Most people do not like this word because it implies conflict, argument, disagreement, quarrel or a war of words. It makes one uncomfortable knowing that they will have to "deal with" someone or "face up to" some situation. We worry about how the other person may respond to our addressing them with our concern or expressing how we felt about a situation. We may feel fearful to tell them what their role was in it and how we would want to rectify the situation. A fair amount of people do not like conflict and when they have to "confront" their fears, most will avoid the conflict and confrontation all together because it is much easier to let it go and move on than it would be to take care of themselves. Having to confront someone is never easy. You need to decide what you have to gain from facing the conflict and if it is truly in yours and their best interest to do so. Every situation is different. It depends on the relationship and what value you place on it. I have found that most people who do not deal with conflict often feel victimized and place blame upon others for why their life is "unhappy" or "unmanageable" or whatever. The sooner you stand up for yourself and ask for what you need or if you feel you have been wronged, the better off you will be. Start with small conflicts where there is minimal investment in the relationship. Sooner or later you are going to have to deal with the confrontation you have been putting off because the reality is "You Are Allready In Conflict".

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"PATIENCE"

Patience is truly a virtue, which basically means if you possess it you are truly remarkable. Patience requires an understanding of your situation and that you know how to handle it in a way that is responsible, caring, sympathetic and respectful of other's feelings. If you learn to take your time and to listen you can teach a valuable lesson to yourself and to others. We live in such an impatient time, where everyone wants their needs met now that it can be hard to not react to others impatience. Being patient is a gift. It takes practice and commitment. The more patience you can have the calmer your life will be and the more balance you will create in your life.

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"Rejection II"

What I liked about this article was what this author had to say:
"Redefine rejection as learning. We are often scared to speak as our true selves because we fear how people will respond. Your goal in speaking about yourself or your business is not to please everyone; it is to connect with the people who will benefit from using your product, service or relationship. Treat each opportunity to speak about your business or yourself as a way to discover new opportunities. If you find yourself keeping silent, ask yourself, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" You'll soon discover that what you feared usually isn't as bad as you imagined."

This is so true. So face your fears of rejection. You will feel better about yourself regardless of the outcome because you did not stay stuck and you created an opportunity for change. And change can be very good.

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Rejection

I was reading this article on rejection and how most of us at one time or another in our lives have struggled with rejection. The word "rejection" alone makes you not even want to say it let alone deal with it. What I have learned in all my years as a therapist is that rejection is fear.... which can be immobilizing for some and motivating for others. We all fear rejection on some level. It is knowing when we need to overcome our fears of rejection. The clearer we are about who we are and what our issues are the more willing we are to address our fears of rejection. The best thing you can do is to list what your fears are about rejection as it relates to the issue you are avoiding and write down what is the worst thing that can happen and the best thing that can happen. There is no rejection when you take a risk. Risk is about growing and facing your fears. The reality is once we face our fears we often wished that we had done it sooner. So take a risk and enjoy your day.

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"A Juggling Act"

Sometimes life seems like a juggling act with how many things you can juggle at one time in any given moment, hour, day or even week. When I listen to the mothers that I work with I do my best to help them understand why "ME" time is important to them when they are taking care of everyone else's needs in the home, at work and in any of their relationships with others. For a lot of women it can be difficult to first find time for themselves let alone being willing to give up that time for their needs. Women who are by nature caretakers have difficulty putting their needs first, in the middle or even last. They become so overwhelmed with all of their responsibilities to others that they can't give themselves permission to do something for themselves. They often feel selfish and/or guilty. I help them to understand that if they do not take care of themselves and do things for themselves that eventually things are going to fall apart and all the balls they have up in the air will be on the ground. The process for some women is slow with carving out time for themselves and learning how to be more gentle with themselves and realize that they to have needs. It is a balancing act. This is what I teach and support them with so that they can feel good about themselves for who they are and not only with what they do for others.

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"Having Fun"

It always amazes me when I hear my clients or others talk about not knowing how to have fun and some even don't know what FUN is. I try to help my clients look at what they enjoy and like to do because often if you enjoy something it could be fun. Everyone has different definitions of fun. Fun to me is going to flea markets and antiquing with my husband. Fun is laughing really hard at stupid jokes. Fun is taking walks. Fun is going to the beach and swimming in the ocean. Fun is going to the movies. Fun is spending time with your best girl friend talking, laughing and eating a good meal. Fun is going to the amusement park and going on all the rides, especially the roller coasters. Fun is going to the bookstore with your sister and drinking chai tea and eating lemon pound cake. Fun is playing in the arcades. Fun is riding ATV's with a bunch of your friends. Fun is whatever brings you joy and happiness. For some this may seem impossible. So look at what is positive in your life and figure out what FUN is for you. There is plenty of time to be serious why not just have some fun and relax.