"CONSISTENCY"

I think this word can be difficult at times. I knew that it had been awhile since I had written in my blog. Had I known it was three months I would have written sooner. I have a tendency to place high and often unrealistic expectations of myself because of what others think I should be doing. I was initially instructed to write at least 3-4 times per week so that the search engines would attract people to my site. The question is did that really work? So instead of writing 1-2 times per week which would have been more realistic for me I wound up not writing for three months because the thought of having to write that many times about different subjects or thoughts became overwhelming. Just as I teach my clients, all of us have "stuff" to work on at different times in our life. We are not perfect.... The key is to realize that we need to change what we are doing if we want a different result. When we know ourselves and do not allow other's influence to determine our actions, We honor ourselves and do what feels right and often what feels natural for us. So my plan is to write 1-2 times per week and if I happen to write more one week GREAT if not GREAT!!!! Consistency is about knowing what we what and making a plan to achieve that goal which inevitably leads us to following through with that GOAL!!

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Goals Give Us Direction

Now that you have answered these goals, it is important to make your goals realistic and reasonable. It can be helpful to place a time frame such as within one month, three months. You do not need to focus on specific dates unless that is your personality or the specific goal requires a specific date. For example, if you wanted to enroll in a college class you will need to know the cut off date to sign up for class. Your specific date would need to be one week prior so that you can be assured to get the class.

Goals are not about success or failure. Goals are about finding direction in your life. Goals are about creating possibilities for yourself. Goals are about facing your fears and taking risks.

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Goals Give Us Direction

Question #10: What would you like to happen in your career?

Goal: I would like to become more involved in work events. Steps to be taken: I will discuss with my supervisor within one month establishing a new role in the company. I will attend monthly events as a volunteer to demonstrate my commitment. I will develop a monthly calendar with events and highlight ways that showcase how this role would be beneficial for the company.

Goal: If you are self-employed and want more clients. Steps to be taken: I will review my marketing techniques and determine what is or isn't working. I will begin to market more aggressively. I will follow up with previous clients. I will join a chamber to get my name out there and attend meetings regularly.

Remember to expand your mind.... Look outside of the box....... See the bigger picture.......

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Goals Give Us Direction

Question #9: What decisions would you like to make?

Be as specific as possible. If you want to go to college or go to work. If you want to leave your marriage. If you want to change your career.

If you choose college. I will make a decision about whether or not I want to go to college. Steps to be taken: I will journal daily about my feelings about school. I will write list of pros and cons. I will talk to my close friends and family about this decision. I will research local colleges and within 1-3 months I will make an appointment to talk to someone about attendance.

If you choose marriage. I will make a decision about my commitment to my marriage. Steps to be taken: I will talk to my one of my closest friends about this issue for their feedback. I will write down my reasons for wanting to end my marriage. I will contact a professional within one month to talk about my feelings about my marriage to gain some clarity.

Decisions are never easy to make. The clearer you can be about them and what the real issues are behind it will help you make your decisions. If you have someone you trust who truly knows you this will also be helpful for you. It is always recommended to contact a professional when making major decisions in your life. They are objective and detached from the situation whereas you have an investment.

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Goals Give Us Direction

Question #8: What problems would you like to see solved?

You can answer it literally. If you are having emotional or financial problems. You would write clearly. I would like to be financially stable. Steps to be taken. I will itemize all my bills and when they are due. I will write list of incoming money,etc. I will keep daily list of monies spent. I will make a schedule of bills to address first in priority. I will contact financial advisor if needed.

If you think more globally. I would like the environment to be greener. Steps to be taken. I will investigate policies on GREEN and what group or function I would like to be involved in. I will contact this group within a month. I will begin to practice how to be more green.

And so on.....


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Goals Give Us Direction

Question #7: Where would you like to go?

This can be answered quite literally. If you would like to go on a vacation. If you would like to visit family in another state. If you would like to attend a sporting event or concert.

I would like to go on a cruise. Steps to be taken: I will contact local travel agent to find out specials. I will look online to find the best deal. I will ask friends and family if they went on a cruise and their experience. I will determine best time and book the cruise.

I would like to go a Bruce Springsteen concert. Steps to be taken: I will find out online when he is in concert. I will look at my schedule to find out best time. I will save $$$ if necessary to attend concert.

This is a pretty simple goal. The difficulty may be in being able to afford the trip and/or fitting it in your schedule. The most important thing is that you are planning something that you want to do and if it doesn't happen this year you know that next year it will or is a possibility anyway.

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Goals Give Us Direction

Question # 6:What would you like to have happen in your friendship,
family, love and work?

I break each one down. For example: Friendship; The goal would be I would like to spend more time with my friends. The steps I could take would be: I will call my friends once a week. I will make plans with my friends at least once a month. I will plan a day trip with my friend.

Family: If you have more than one family member, I normally set a goal for each one.
For example: I want to be closer to my brother. The steps I could take would be: I will call him at least once a week. I will tell him how I feel about our relationship. I will send him an email if I can not call him. I will make plans with him at least once a month.

Love: I want to be more honest with my partner about my feelings. The steps to be taken could be: I will write down what issues I am having with my partner. I will share these feelings with my partner at least once a week. I will spend more intimate time with my partner.

Work: I want to make more money. The steps to be taken could be: I will ask my boss for a raise. I will find out if there are any higher positions. I will research what steps I need to take for career advancement. I will talk to employers for possible overtime and job openings.

The more specific you can be about what you would like the better able to identify the steps to achieve these goals which makes them realistic and attainable thus setting up SUCCESS.

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